“Do I learn
through dark providences,
or simply seem
relieved when they are over?” Sinclair Ferguson
A
man went to his dentist for a root canal. The dentist made him comfortable and
injected a numbing agent around the tooth, then left the room for a few minutes
to allow the medication to take effect. But when the dentist returned he found
the patient standing next to the tray of instruments. The dentist asked, “What
are you doing by my surgical instruments?” Without looking up, continuing to
focus on his task, the patient replied, “I’m taking out the ones I don’t like.”
So if you had the power, what would you do
with 2020? What parts would you take out? Many of us would eradicate
it. But does that line up with a biblical worldview? Do we really believe that
God is sovereign? Do we believe that God is in control, even of years that from
our perspective are as horrible as 2020?
Nobody likes hard times. I know that I don’t.
Yet, I know that as I look back on my life, the times that I have grown the
most spiritually, the times when I’ve grown closer to God…haven’t been the easy
times. They’ve been when I’ve walked through the fire, through deep waters. You’ll
find that nearly every believer who has been walking with the Lord for any
length of time will say the same thing. And while I don’t want a repeat of 2020,
I don’t want to forget the lessons. I want them to be ingrained in my soul. I want
them to help me walk closer to Jesus and trust Him more.
During
this pandemic it’s easy to see bad things happening all around us. However,
with a biblical view on our circumstances, it may become clearer that what God
could be doing during this time of taking things away is actually giving us
something wonderful and eternal - Himself! So, here are some things that I’ve
learned (you’ve probably learned them too).
The
most precious people on the planet are the ones that live closest to me (or used
to live with me). Spouses, family, children, parents, relatives, close
friends, roommates, etc. are people that we care for the most. During this
pandemic, I’ve realized anew how blessed I am to be married to Jane Carson. Her love
for the Lord, her faith, and joy has helped encourage my own love for the Lord, faith, and joy. Living with someone and seeing them at their best and worst gives us a
sense of care and compassion that can’t be adequately expressed. This pandemic has
helped us to not take our spouses and children for granted. The ache of not
seeing my son and daughter-in-law has only been increased by not being able to
see them. Too often I take those closest to me for granted. Yet, when things
get serious, I wanted them all close. I want to make certain that they’re all okay.
Gathering
as a church family is one of the most undervalued and underappreciated events
in the whole world. This is the first time in most of our lives
(since getting saved) that we’ve not been able to be with our brothers and sisters
each week. It’s unnatural. It’s discouraging. It’s debilitating. Prior to this, we failed to value how important it is to be with other believers regularly. It’s
a blessing that we have the technology to broadcast our services, yet the digital
world doesn’t have skin on it. It doesn’t wrap an arm around another believer as
you pray with them. It misses the nuances of a smile or a tearing eye. It
misses the vital part of a maturing Christianity, giving as well as receiving. But
we didn’t realize how much we were gaining from being with the “family” until we
weren’t.
Being
busy gives us a false sense of accomplishment while stillness feels deceptively
like idleness. When we’re running to work, school, events, etc., and are
constantly on the move, we feel like we’re accomplishing something but often
without much to show for it. Our overly busy lives have taught us to disdain times
where we’re sitting still and in the same place. This season has been a lesson
for us that busyness is not the same as accomplishing what has significance. It
needs to teach us something that we easily forget – God did not create us to be
human “doers,” but human “beings.” Being somewhere and being with someone supersedes
doing.
Petty
disagreements and the little things that tend to consume us are even pettier
and smaller when compared to eternity. Many of us either abandoned
social media, limited it, or unfollowed neg-aholics. Yet, when I think about the
things that have caused strife among friends or even in the church, they’re generally
very small matters that were blown out of proportion. When you compare them to eternity,
most aren’t worth the breath to speak them or the energy spent to post them on
social media. Were they worth our time or energy at all? Are they worth our time
now? What value are they in this world if they have no bearing on the one to
come?
I’m
a lot more selfish than I thought I was and not nearly as patient as I thought
that I was. When you can’t go where you want to go or do what you want
to do, you find warm emotions rising up that are a bit shocking. Why does not
being able to go to a coffee shop or movie or travel freely matter so much to
me? Why was I so obsessed when this all started to see how far the numbers went
up each day as if watching to keep score in a tragedy? It was easy to forget that
those weren’t just numbers, they’re people. So, I want to learn to be more thankful
for what I do have. I want to learn to be more aware and compassionate,
especially for those experiencing loss firsthand.
No one is guaranteed tomorrow, and as much as I try to understand that I
still don’t get it. Though I know better, I still live my life like
I will always have a future on this earth. I think about next week, next month,
and next year like they’re guaranteed dates on my calendar. But the psalmist speaks
into my heart by turning focus for the day I have. “This is the day the Lord
has made; I will rejoice and be glad in it” (Ps. 118:24). While we need to
wisely plan, God has only given us today to use. Too often I’ve wasted today
assuming I’ll have tomorrow.
This
life is short and there are many ways to squander it, but only one way to
redeem it – Love Jesus with your whole life, and love Him above all else.
It really is a straight and narrow path but the road that leads to destruction
is broad and too many go down it. Yet, it’s not as difficult to find as it is
to maintain. Yet, I’m so easily distracted by the trivial. If I learn nothing
else from 2020, I want to learn this and never forget it: “For me to live is
Christ and to die is gain!” (Phil. 1:21).
I
don’t want to repeat 2020 but I don’t want to forget it. How about you?
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when I go to the dentist, I get laughing gas!! there is a reason for that! insightful blog.... would love to have a good chat over this material.... in the long run, learning to live by the old song 'Day by day..' accepting as from a Father's hand, its part of pain and pleasure believing Rom. 8:28.. HE MEANS IT for good!
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