During
the Battle of the Wilderness in the Civil War, Union general John Sedgwick was
inspecting his troops. At one point he came to a parapet, over which he gazed
out in the direction of the enemy. His officers suggested that this was unwise
and perhaps he ought to duck while passing the parapet. “Nonsense,” snapped the
general. “They couldn't hit an elephant at this dist….” A moment later Sedgwick
fell to the ground, fatally wounded.
Pride is a killer. One of the first victims
of pride is relationships. There are many reasons for the great political
division in our country today. One of the core issues is pride. How often does
a politician admit that they were wrong, or that they don’t know the solution?
Instead, each clings to the arrogant belief that they have all of the answers
and the other side is all wrong. What is lost is the true need of what’s best
for our country.
Pride is the great divider. Pride and Satan are nearly synonymous. Satan
loves pride. It’s truly a devilish evil. Yet, most of us don’t consider pride a
heinous sin, but it is. It’s at the top of the list of evils that God hates
(Prov. 6:16-17). There are few things that the Bible talks about God hating,
but God’s hate for pride is repeated several times in Scripture.
God
not only hates pride, but actively opposes it. “God opposes the proud but gives
grace to the humble” (James 4:6). God hates pride because the proud person
tries to displace God. Wayne Mack insightfully writes: “Pride consists in
attributing to ourselves the honor, privileges, prerogatives, rights and power
that are due to God alone…Pride, at its core, is idolatry of self. A proud
person has put himself or herself in God’s place.” Pride separates us from
God and causes us to foolishly try to take His place. God loves unity and
community. Pride is a catalyst for division.
Pride
is the root of division in the home. Satan separated Adam and Eve from each
other with the “pride of life” (1 John 2:16) that they could “be like
God” (Gen. 3:5). Why do couples fight? One thinks that he/she is right. Or,
they want their way. They may be angry that they feel slighted. Not only does
pride cause arguments, it stokes the fire of division.
The
marital division can’t be resolved until one party confesses wrong-doing. I’m
embarrassed to admit that over the years, my wife, Jane, has frequently been
more Christlike than I’ve been. Even when she was not at fault, Jane would initiate
confession and restoration by first taking responsibility. What caused me to
cling to anger and offense? Pride.
Pride is the root of division in the church. You’ll rarely find
division in a church over a biblical issue. More frequently, it’s over power or
someone has an agenda. Sometimes they’ll cloak pride with a veneer of “spirituality,”
much like the Pharisees. Pull back the façade and underneath is pride. For
example, there was great division in the Corinthian church. The Apostle Paul
addresses it in the first three chapters of 1 Corinthians. What was the core
sin? Pride. When there’s more heat than light among God’s people, you can
almost be certain that the root issue is pride.
What’s the cure? We must cultivate
humility. I’m not sure when it happened, but humility is rarely valued
in the Church today. Yet, if anyone should be characterized by humility, it should
be a Christian.
First, we know from Scripture that there is nothing
that we have (talent, finances, position, etc.) that we didn’t receive. Then, you
can’t accept the gospel until you admit the evil of your own heart, your inability
to merit any favor with God and total dependence on God’s mercy and grace for
salvation. Apart from Christ’s cross, we’re hopelessly lost and doomed.
Routinely confess your sin to God. Too few have
a regular practice of rigorous honest self-examination. In light of God’s Word with
the Spirit acting as a surgeon, we must investigate the condition of our own heart.
Coupled with confession, (1 Jn 1:9), it’s an essential practice of humility.
Acknowledge
your sin to others (James 5:16). When we’ve wronged others,
we must honestly confess it to them and take personal responsibility. Humility
before God is incomplete unless there is also humility before others. A true
test of our willingness to humble ourselves is a willingness to share with
others the weaknesses that we confess to God.
Be
gracious and patient when you’re mistreated (1 Peter 3:8-17). When
something is unjust we want to react and rectify it. Patiently responding to the
unjust accusations and actions of others demonstrates our strength of godly
character and provides an opportunity to put on humility.
Actively
submit to authority, the good and the bad (1 Peter 2:18). Our
culture spurns submission and idolizes individualism. We must purposefully and
actively work on submitting to those that God has placed as authorities in our
lives. Doing so is a healthy way to humble yourself.
Receive
correction and feedback from others graciously (Prov. 2:1). Look
for the kernels of truth in what people offer you, even if it comes from a
dubious source. Learn to pray, “Lord, what are you seeking to teach me through
this?”
Purposely
associate with those of lower state than you (Luke 7:36-39). Our
culture is very status conscious. We seek to socialize upward or at least
laterally. Resist the temptation of being partial to those with status or
wealth. Jesus was verbally chastised by the Pharisees for socializing with the
poor, those they considered vile sinners and those of lowly state. Jesus’ social
circle went from high to low. Does ours?
Serve
others (2 Cor. 4:5). Serving others reduces our focus on ourselves
and builds the Kingdom of God. When serving another costs us nothing, we should
question whether it’s truly servanthood.
Be
quick to forgive (Matt. 18: 21-35). Forgiveness is one of the
greatest acts of humility we can do. It acknowledges a wrong has been done to us
and releases any right of repayment for the wrong. It’s the denial of self.
Habitually
speak well of others (Eph. 4:31-32). Saying demeaning things about
others puts them down, but elevates us. Sincerely speaking well of others encourages
and builds them up. Start each day with: Who can I encourage and build up
today?
If
you love God, you love what He loves. But God’s enemy, Satan, loves pride. By Christ’s
cross, commit to a lifestyle of daily dying to self and living through Him
(Gal. 2:20). That’s the foundation for true humility.
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