“I
tried atheism for a while, but my faith just wasn’t strong enough.”
Can I vent for a moment? It really irritates me
when I see Christians caricatured in the media. It seems like every time the Media
portrays a Christian, typically it’s someone with a redneck accent who’s a
hypocrite running some scam financially, sexually or both. Or, they’re some
mystical type with a spaced out look and their feet planted in midair.
Since the media is the gatekeeper of public
information, the way Christ-followers are portrayed influences the public
perception of Christianity. 25% of the respondents to a recent Barna survey
said they were unable to remember any positive contributions from Christians
during recent years. It doesn’t help, according to the Pew Research Center, a
mere 8% of national journalists and 14% of local ones indicated they attend a
place of worship every week. Inaccurate stereotypes perpetuated about Bible-believing
Christians frequently stems from insufficient religious education and interaction
with true Christians…it hurts to be so terribly misconstrued.
Yet sadly, we Christians frequently do the
same thing to atheists. It’s also very unfair. Most atheists I know are not anything
like the Freedom from Religion Foundation,
nor are they acerbic like Richard Dawkins. In fact, and I say this
unapologetically – some of my best friends
are atheists. I love them, pray for them and have great respect for them,
though I’m sure sometimes I drive them crazy.
In 2013 researchers from the University of
Tennessee found atheists run the range from vocally anti-religious activists to
nonbelievers who observe religious traditions. In other words, atheists are a
very diverse group. While not a scientific study, these are some of the types
of atheists I’ve met.
Fad Atheists. Often, these are teens
or twenty-somethings. Their parents are often very religious. Most young people
want to distinguish their identity from their parents and want attention.
What better way to get some “shock mileage” than to declare “I’m an atheist!”
They usually love to argue to impress others with their atheistic
intellectualism. Wise parents just love them and for the most part, ignore it.
Wounded Atheists. These are often
individuals who have suffered greatly. Sometimes they’ve been molested or
abused. Some have a debilitating disease or have seen terrible atrocities like
war. Some have been horribly treated by parents who hypocritically hid behind
their religion. The parents may have gotten divorced during their formative
years or Dad abandoned the family. And since for most of us our concept of God
is colored by our relationship with our father, if we reject Dad – God is
usually next.
Perverse Atheists. When someone
feels guilty, the best way to attempt to discard a sense of guilt, is to seek
to eradicate God. With someone evil like a Stalin, a valid question is – which
came first, the atheism or the evil action? When someone is living an evil or
perverse life, atheism can be an attempt to keep from feeling accountable to a
transcendent authority?
Angry Anti-theists Atheists. Unfortunately,
this is the group most Christians are familiar with. They’re on all the talk
shows. They’re the ones bringing lawsuits against municipalities for Nativity
scenes. They regularly speak out against religious beliefs. They view religion
as the ultimate ignorance and any individual/institution associated with it as
backward and even socially dangerous. They’re very confrontational, believing obvious
fallacies in religion should be aggressively addressed. Yet, I think you’ll
find, they’re a small minority. Most atheists I know don’t want to bother
anyone or be bothered. They respectfully disagree and want to be treated with
the same respect.
Apathetic Atheists. Personally, this
group concerns me the most. They don’t involve themselves with either religion
or anti-religion. As long as they’re basically happy and nothing rocks their
world, they don’t invest time thinking about life’s big questions: Who am I? Why am I here? Where am I going?
What’s the point? Religion plays no role in their life. They don’t believe
much of anything. Their absence of faith means the absence of anything religious
in any form in their mental spaces. Some even sit in churches week after week.
Some in ones just like ours. Some don’t really believe in God, some merely give
lip service to Him. But God has no true effect on their life. They may like the
social relationships or find the moral teachings beneficial for themselves or
their children. They may not even acknowledge they are atheists. But for all
practical purposes, because God has no place in their lives, they’re atheists.
Unanswered Questions Atheists. I
think this is probably the largest percentage of atheists. Many of them think
and feel very deeply. They see tragedies like 911, babies born with birth
defects, a young mother raped and murdered and they can’t get past there could
be a God who allows such suffering. They read the Bible and discover passages
where God commanded the destruction of whole people groups. It seems horribly
unfair and cruel to them. They refuse to believe in a God who’d command such
things. They can’t believe God is good or loving, and still sends people to
Hell. Many are intellectual. Evolution
and scientific theory make more sense to them than a God who created everything
out of nothing. They have many unanswered questions and unbelief makes more
sense.
How
do we deal with atheists? Love
them. Let God love them through you. Are you attracted to someone who is
hateful and angry? Why would an atheist ever embrace the faith of a hateful
Christian?
Pray for
them. It’s God who opens up eyes, not slick Christian arguments. No one will
ever be argued into heaven. Sadly, I’ve seen Christians win the argument but lose
the relationship.
Be
honest. We don’t have all the answers. There are many we can’t answer. And
it takes faith to be a Christian, even in the face of unanswered questions, so
just admit it. Of course, atheism also takes faith.
Live
like Jesus. The truth is I know I’m a mess so I admit it. Yet, by God’s
grace, I seek to be kind. And I’ve never regretted being too kind.
I think Jesus is greatly pleased when the
worst thing an unbeliever can say about us is: “I hate them. They’re just too
kind, honest and gracious!” So live so much like Jesus even the greatest
skeptic can’t argue with your life!
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