Showing posts with label personal responsibility. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal responsibility. Show all posts

Sunday, May 23, 2021

Defend, Defund...or Somewhere in Between?

 

“Cops are held to a higher standard of accountability than the rest of the population…as it should be. But never forget that they are people too. Men and women…subject to the same doubts and regrets…that all of us are. I’m not asking for anyone to cut us slack, not at all. But a little recognition…for the conditions under which our men and women operate…that’d go a long way.” 
                   NYPD Police Commissioner Frank Reagan, NBC’s Blue Bloods

 Since 2002 I’ve had the privilege of being the chaplain for the Burlington Police Department. Over the course of the past two decades, I’ve interacted with local officers from our department, as well as officers from other departments. These men and women aren’t perfect, nor do they profess to be, but they are committed to making a difference and serving for the good of the public. It’s been very hard for me to watch the national maligning and misrepresentation of law enforcement.   Usually, at this time of year, I participate in our local Fallen Officers’ Ceremony. With Covid-19 this year’s ceremony was postponed. Yet, everyone should remember that every time an officer puts on the uniform, in the back of their minds they know that it could be the last time. They don’t know who they will encounter during their shift, pull over or what call they will be sent to. Law enforcement officers are required to run in when everyone else is running out. 
  A ride along with an officer is very eye-opening. Every elected official and those critical of cops should be required to do one. I’ll never forget my first one. I was psyched up for a drug bust or at least a high-speed traffic stop. That first call quickly altered my misconceptions. It was the horrible crime of a barking dog. That was it. No assaults or batteries. No one was even letting loose a string of profanities…just an annoying, barking dog. 
  And I remember thinking, “Why didn’t the man just go over and talk to his neighbor instead of calling the police?” It’s my belief that one part of the solution for our current law enforcement crisis is not a defunding of the police and certainly not getting rid of the police entirely. Those options would be disastrous for those who most need police protection and the intervention of law enforcement. Part of the solution is found in the Bible of neighbors being responsible for neighbors. Isn’t that a key point in Jesus’ parable of the Good Samaritan? The Samaritan was a hero because he got personally involved, even at risk and at great cost to himself. 
  To begin just learn your neighbors’ names, the names of their children…even their pets. Swapping phone numbers is a great place to start. Exchanging normal civility like speaking to them when you see them in their yard or waving as you drive by. 
  Strictly speaking, there was no police force in ancient Israel, but there were systems in place for community policing. When a crime took place, the whole community was expected to cry out, and all within earshot were obligated to assist. The seeds of that rationale are still seen in volunteer fire departments and neighborhood watch programs. 
  Our lack of knowing our neighbors has been fertilized by our placing decks and patios on the backs of our homes. We’re missing the benefit of the front porch. It’s one reason we put a bench out front of our home where I often read. It’s an opportunity to interact with my neighbors. As the weather grows warmer, we put a water bowl by the sidewalk for dog walkers to use to satisfy a thirsty pooch. 
  Many law enforcement crises would be eradicated if parents parented or when there was a problem with their child, be the parent instead of calling the cops. The same is true in marriages or other relationships. Many use cops to show the person they’re bickering with that they’re serious. It’d be better to leave, rent a room at a motel or even sleep on a friend’s couch. Obviously, if there’s a risk of violence, one needs to dial 911. Yet, often before the situation escalates it can be calmed by a simple exit of one of the combatants. 
  Jesus said, “You will always have poor people with you” (John 12:8, Good News Translation). Ours is a fallen, sin-contaminated world. Because of that reality, there will always be poor, disabled, mentally ill, homeless, fatherless, orphans, single parents, and others that are disenfranchised. They are the ones most often abused and taken advantage of by the powerful and cruel. They’re the ones most needing the protection of law enforcement. Defunding the police leaves the most vulnerable even more vulnerable. It’s already taking place in communities that have bought into the latest social fad purported as some type of solution. 
  While there needs to be a strict evaluation of law enforcement officers, the continual caricaturing by the media and public officials for political gain hurts everyone.  There are some bad cops. That’s true of every facet of society, even those in the ministry. Blanket mischaracterizations and attacks hurt everyone, particularly most needing protection. Soon men and women of character will decide it’s not worth the risk to be so maligned and choose another career. The only ones who will enter law enforcement will be the very ones who should never be in law enforcement. 
  I’d give more heed to those who are critical of law enforcement if they’d stop casting rocks from places of safety and actually live in those same neighborhoods. Years ago Chicago’s Mayor, Jane Byrne, did just that for at least three weeks. In 1981 she moved into one of the worst public housing units in Cabrini Green to demonstrate that the area wasn’t as bad as its detractors suggested it was. She also hoped to shine a light on the neglected side of the city and prove that it was an area worth investing in. 
  If the police are defunded maybe the extra funds should be used to move those voting for such shortsightedness into those same neighborhoods. Don’t hold your breath. 
  As Christians, we must be a blessing in our communities. So, what must happen from a biblical worldview and mission is for Christians to plant churches and to move into those needy communities. Whenever the light of the gospel moves into a community, the darkness of evil lessens. We can’t solve all of our society’s deep problems. Yet, we can pray for a new host of missionaries to go into the world of our inner cities and we can determine to be the Good Samaritan in the neighborhood where God has placed us.

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Sunday, July 8, 2018

Learning from the Greatest Generation


“Who escapes a duty, avoids a gain.”  Theodore Parker  

  Each Saturday, though now 94, retired U.S. Senator Bob Dole sets off on his latest mission. A blue oxford is maneuvered over the dead right arm and the shoulder that was blown away on an Italian hillside, pressed khakis over the scarred thigh. He’s driven to a spot just outside the main entrance to the National World War II Memorial in D.C. And then they come, bus after bus, wheelchair after wheelchair, battalions of his bent brothers, stooped with years, veterans coming to see their country’s monument to their sacrifice and to be welcomed by of one of their country’s icons. Over and over again, Dole says, “Good to see you. Where you from?” as they roll close, sometimes one on each side. New York, Tennessee, Nevada, the old roll-call once again. “Let's get a picture.” “Thank you for your service.”
  Sometimes Dole will do that all day, staying until the last one goes by to see the grand columns and fountains behind him. They pump his left hand or squeeze his shoulders. Sometimes he gets home, not just tired but gently battered by humanity. He’s been coming for years now, weather and health permitting, to greet aging vets, brought at no cost from throughout the country by the Honor Flight Network. As the many missions of a mission-driven life fade into history - combat hero, champion for the disabled, Senate majority leader, presidential candidate - this final calling has remained, down to just Saturdays, sometimes derailed by the doctors, still a duty to be fulfilled. “It’s just about the one public service left that I’m doing. We don’t have many of the World War II vets left. It’s important to me. I tell them it doesn't matter where you're from, what war you served in, whether you were wounded or not wounded…We’re all in this together.”
  This past Wednesday we celebrated America’s birthday. The reason that we’re here today, the reason we still have the many freedoms we have, including the freedom of religion, is because young Americans jumped out of planes, stormed beaches, waded through swamps on foreign soils – willing to pay the ultimate sacrifice. We must never forget that responsibility always proceeds freedom, we serve first out of duty, not personal benefit, and freedom is always costly. Yet, our American freedom isn’t comparable to the eternal freedom born-again believers have in Christ.
  Tom Brokaw dubbed those World War II vets, The Greatest Generation. I’m not sure. Our country has had a long history of generations of heroes. I do know though that the Bible teaches that every believer can be part of “The Greatest Church.” How can we do that?
  Take Personal Responsibility for Yourself. One son of a WWII Medal of Honor winner remembers of his dad and his peers, “For them, responsibility was their juice. They loved responsibility…anytime they could get a task and be responsible, that was what really got em’ going.”  When those from the Greatest Generation accepted responsibility, they also accepted all the consequences of that decision. They weren’t whiners or excuse makers. They took personal accountability seriously.
  Taking personal responsibility is essential to being a healthy Christian. Every believer is responsible for their own personal walk with the Lord. They’re responsible to make spending time in His Word, prayer and worship a top priority. They’re responsible to serve and step up when others sit down. Early Christians turned their world upside down because they didn’t rationalize, “I’m too busy” or “someone else will do it.”
  Be habitually humble. Typical of the Greatest Generation is the story of an adult child finding some war medal stashed in the attic after Dad passes away, having never told them about it. Even if their exploits were heroic, the Greatest Generation rarely talked about the war, both because of the difficulty in remembering such carnage, but also from some sense that they were merely fulfilling their duty with no reason to brag. Because our Savior was obedient unto death on the cross for us, there’s great joy found in being obedient to Him. The motive for our obedience isn’t self-glory. We’re motivated to serve out of love and gratitude for all He’s done for us. After Jesus’ great sacrifice, it’s our delight to humbly serve and obey Him.  
  Reach for greater challenges. The Greatest Generation wasn’t great despite the challenges they faced, but because of them. Too many dodge difficulties, erroneously believing the easier life is, the happier they’ll be. Our grandfathers knew better. Fulfillment comes from overcoming great challenges that build character and refine the soul. The challenges they faced made their joy more sweet because it was tinged with the gratitude of knowing how easily it could all have been taken away.
  A Christian can’t afford to play it safe. Eternity hangs in the balance. We must pray for boldness as the Apostle Paul continually did and take great risks for the gospel. The world is headed toward a Christless eternity. We’ve been given the mission of sharing with it hope – that God loves this world, that there’s forgiveness, new life and eternity in heaven.
    Endure. The Greatest Generation wouldn’t give up until the mission was accomplished. Coming home, they carried that same commitment over to the world of work. They didn’t look for personal fulfillment; they labored for a bigger purpose: to give their families the financial security they hadn’t enjoyed growing up.
  Serving the Lord is even more fulfilling. Anything ultimately fulfilling is usually difficult. The rewards for serving the Lord are eternal. What a blessing it will be if we faithfully serve to hear, “Well, done, good and faithful servant” from the lips of the Captain of our souls who paid the ultimate price for us, so we could be forgiven and free forever!  

Can we help you spiritually? Can we help you know Jesus better? Please check out more resources on our church's web page, Gracechurchwi.org. Or, call us at 262.763.3021. If you'd like to know more about how Jesus can change your life, I'd love to mail you a copy of how Jesus changed my life in "My Story." E-mail me at Carson@gracechurchwi.org to request a free copy. Please include your mailing address. 

Monday, April 13, 2015

The Disaster of Excuse Making

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month.”  Theodore Roosevelt

  It was one of those – Can you please repeat that again? – moments. Unfortunately, too many of us can relate to the experience of Rebecca Boyd of Adger, Alabama. Because her husband had recently been laid off, when Cinderella first came out, knowing their finances were going to be tight, she took her daughter as a last treat to see it. It was probably be the last movie she’d be able to take her daughter to for a while.
  Enter Kyesha Smith Wood. Kyesha believing that her children were more mature and better behaved than they actually were, dropped off her teenage daughter, step daughter, and son off to also see Cinderella. But throughout the movie the two girls giggled, talked loudly and were kicking Rebecca Boyd’s seat. When she turned around to ask them to stop, they just giggled at her and continued with the same behavior. Speaking to the girls after the movie, Boyd explained her situation and told the two girls that they needed to realize that their behavior affects others and they never know what other people around them are going through.
  After the movie, Kyesha Smith Wood’s son was a tattletale, a narc and a rat. I mean, can you believe that a kid would rat out someone for rude behavior? Unbelievable! Yet, isn’t that the message kids are given from toddlerhood on, “Don’t be a rat!” That needs to be qualified, with “Don’t be petty and share the trivial,” but when behavior and choices affect others, only a rat won’t do something to right a terrible wrong. When her son told his Mom how rude and obnoxious her daughters had been, she was very embarrassed. Then, she did something highly unusual, she was proactive. Kyesha used the power of Facebook for good. This is her post:
  “This is a long shot, but I'm looking for a woman that was at Tannehill Premier tonight seeing Cinderella at 7pm. I dropped my teenage daughter, step daughter, and son off at the movie. My son later told me, much to my humiliation and embarrassment, that my girls were rude and obnoxious during the movie. The woman I'm looking for addressed them and asked them to be quiet and they were disrespectful. After the movie she approached my girls and told them that her husband had been laid off and this was the last movie she would be able to take her daughter to for a while and my girls ruined that for her. If you are this woman, please message me. I can assure you that these girls are being strongly dealt with and appropriately punished. This rude, disrespectful, and awful behavior is unacceptable and they owe you an apology. My husband and I are having them write your apology letter tonight and we would like to pay for your next movie and snacks out of their allowance. Please message me if this is you. I apologize profusely for their disrespect.”
  The response from the victim, Rebecca Boyd, was just as wonderful: “The note from their mom brought me to tears and shows there is [sic] still good people in the world. I have no hard feelings towards them and I am proud of their parents. The girls are not bad...they are children. Glad they are learning a lesson. I hope if my teenagers are out and they act up...I hope someone says something to them.”
  Wow! What a breath of fresh air in our “everyone’s a victim” world. The typical parental response would have been something like, “Well, kids will be kids…” Or, “she should have known better than to sit near a bunch of kids…” “I wonder what she did to antagonize my little angels.” The end result is that no one is responsible for their behavior, and that’s deadly for society. Worse! It’s deadly for the gospel.
  It comes out early when a teacher corrects a child in school or a leader rebukes a child for the behavior in some group setting. In today’s world usually the parent/s attacks the leader who dared to correct their “angel.” They excuse or rationalize the bad behavior. If you have a “condition,” then essentially, you get a walk for anything and everything.
  Please understand, no one is saying that teachers and leaders are perfect and aren’t periodically going to make the wrong call. BUT if you attack those in authority during those early years of your child’s life, they’re going to have a tough time in their adulthood. It will handicap them in negotiating in the future with very imperfect employers who will just terminate them rather than put up with the hassle. Or, police officers who have no problem arresting them and throwing them in jail. It will affect their relationships with friends and future spouse. When nothing is their fault, they fail to learn to take personal responsibility and are unable to problem-solve which is essential to be able to have healthy relationships.
  One of the highest costs of this imbecilic victim mentality is that it makes you impotent. When it’s always someone else’s fault or powers outside of your control, then a victim mentality is empowered. What’s the point then of having ambition or seeking to achieve? Sadly, too many limp through life, emotional and social handicaps, failing to take personal responsibility.
  The greatest cost though is spiritually. If you don’t believe you’re responsible for your choices or behavior, then why would you need a Savior? You don’t need a Savior, you just need a better lawyer or therapist or even medications. You don’t need to repent of your evil behavior, you just need an environmental change. But the courts of heaven won’t give you a pass and neither will the courts of this earth.
  Even if you’re an addict, bipolar or some other condition, if you become violent and hurt someone, even if you hurt yourself, they’ll still incarcerate you. Now they may “incarcerate” in a mental health facility, but call it whatever you want, if it has locked doors and you can’t come and go as you please, it’s still “jail.”
  A victim mentality isn’t new. The first ones who copped a victim plea were Adam and Eve. They even tried to blame the Garden owner that they’d been set-up. It didn’t work for them and it won’t work for us.
  But even God can’t fix our sinful choices until we first take personal responsibility. That’s why Adam and Eve’s “Father” held them responsible for their choices. And a wise parent will follow His example and teach their children personal responsibility. Wonderfully, in the courts of heaven, 1 John 1:9 is a sure promise, If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
  Failing to take personal responsibility always leads to enslavement. Yet, God wants us to be free. Liberty begins with owning it, confessing and repenting of our wrong choices. Then, God in His loving grace can fix it.