“In
life there are milestones each rare and so sweet, sharing with loved ones makes
them complete.”
Recently, I’ve been doing some reminiscing. Remembering Ben’s brain
surgery and celebrating his being seizure free for ten years brought back a
flood of memories. Then, on our recent vacation, Jane and I re-connected with
Don Widener. I baptized Don when he was growing up in our church. It was Don’s
father, Ted Widener, who first contacted me in 1988 regarding the
potential of being the pastor of Grace Church.
This weekend begins my 30th year as pastor at Grace. Wow!
Thirty years? When I was a kid, I thought 30 was ancient. I wasn’t sure I’d ever
live to be 30 and was part of the generation taught to not trust anyone over
30.
Do
you want to hear God laugh? Tell Him your plans. When we moved to Burlington
from Detroit in 1988, I was on the 5 year plan – we’d be in Wisconsin for 5 years
and then off to another ministry, hopefully, in an urban area as I’m a city boy…but
God had a much better plan. Grace is not just where I’m the pastor, it’s my family
and our community has become an extended family. There’s just something refreshing
about shopping in a local store to quickly pick up a few items, and an hour
later realizing that you’ve talked to two or three friends and probably should head
home.
Our church is on the brink of a new chapter in our history, yet, we don’t
want to forget our past. Many who came before us gave of themselves for the Lord
in our church. One of the heavy burdens of long pastorates is that eventually you
have to bury your friends. Heaven is all the sweeter for me because I have many
“family members” from Grace waiting for me. Sometimes I catch myself starting
to share a wonderful story about an old friend, “Do you remember?” and then
realize the person I’m talking to wasn’t at our church then. Can I take a
moment and tell you about just a few of my friends from Grace who are already
Home?
Bess
Norum. If you met Bess, you never forgot her. She was already in her
nineties when I first met her, a short little spitfire. She’d sung in the choir
for one of Billy Sunday’s crusades. Even at ninety, Bess was passionate about
her friends that they might not know Jesus. Our church didn’t have air
conditioning back then and it was a chunk of change to add it. When Bess
learned how much it was going to cost, she quipped, “You can buy a lot of
lemonade for that amount.” Yet, Bess gave faithfully and sacrificially from her
limited and fixed income so that we soon were able to install air conditioning.
Her funeral was my first, yet it really wasn’t a funeral. It was a celebration
of a sparrow who’d been set free.
Ted
Widener. Ted was chairman of our body of Deacons for many years. He was
also one of my dearest friends. After meetings he and I’d talk until one of us finally
noticed the time and realized we needed to head home. There wasn’t much Ted
couldn’t or wouldn’t do when it came to serving the Lord. He was one of the
first with a vision for building and expanding our ministry. Though Ted didn’t
like change, if the change made us more effective for the gospel, he’d support
it, even if it made him uncomfortable. He knew that I had three left hands when
it came to repairing things, yet Ted never made me feel stupid or embarrassed. One
weekend Jane was away at a ladies’ retreat and Ben began having seizures again.
Ted rushed to Whitewater to pick up Jane because I couldn’t leave Ben. I’ll
never forget shortly before the Lord called him Home, Ted had been nominated
again to be a Deacon. Though he loved our church, he turned it down, sharing
with me that there were some things he needed to work on in his life. I loved
him for his humility and transparency.
Connie
Thompson. Thinking of her brings both a smile to my face and tears to
my eyes. For her, I was never Pastor or Scott, I was “Yo Rev!” She never met a stranger and loved to make others feel
welcome. She had a unique gift for making you feel at ease. I think we clicked
because our family history was similar. I’ll never forget hugging her when her
Dad died. I thought her heart was going to break, she was so distraught. She
was one of those rare folk that if she didn’t like something, she didn’t play
games – she didn’t know how. Her candor was refreshing. She loved Jesus and
loved to sing about Him. The Lord had blessed her with a beautiful voice. She also
had a huge heart and it weighed on her to see others hurting. Once when our
church was going through a dark period, I came in on Sunday and it was written all
over my face, but Connie let me know in no uncertain terms that looking like
God had died wasn’t going to fly.
Bob
Cannon. Bob reminded me that even when I give up, God never does. When
I first came in 1988, I’d visit Bob and invite him to church. I lost track of
how many times. Finally, I gave up, but God didn’t. Back then, Bob would tell
me that he knew the Lord. But just a few years ago, Bob really came to Christ.
What a change! It’s what’s supposed to happen when someone comes to Christ.
When there’s new life, the Bible teaches there will be fruit. Bob, who’d wanted
little to do with Christianity before began digging into his Bible, faithfully
worshipped with his brothers and sisters in Christ, and began serving – he
loved working with Jr Hi kids. He became a giver. Even when he couldn’t make it
to church, his offering did. And Bob became a missionary. His primary field was from his hospital bed as his
health deteriorated. He’d share the love of Jesus with the doctors and nurses
who cared for his heart, that Jesus had given him a new heart, and how they
could have one too.
That’s
only a few who’ve so wonderfully been a part of our church. There are many others.
We’re truly, “surrounded by a great cloud
of witnesses.” We’re so blessed that as believers, we never say “Good-bye,”
just “Good night, we’ll see you in the morning, that great resurrection
morning.”
Can we help you spiritually? Can we help you know Jesus better? Please check out more resources on our church's web page, Gracechurchwi.org. Or, call us at 262.763.3021. If you'd like to know more about how Jesus can change your life, I'd love to mail you a copy of how Jesus changed my life in "My Story." E-mail me at Carson@gracechurchwi.org to request a free copy. Please include your mailing address. "
It was nice to read through this. I miss my dad often because there are many times I would live t hear his advice. But he knew how to serve, that's for sure. I'd like to think that I learned some of that from him. Had he not died so young, my kids could be learning lots from him. Even now, I don't know the purpose of why some die so young, but I have to remind myself that God knows what he's doing. Man plans and God laughs! Just a reminder for me as my plans often fail when I'm out of God's will. Trying to line mine up with His is now my goal. God is still good!
ReplyDeleteYour Dad was one of my best friends and a godly man, who helped me so much as I started serving in my first pastorate.
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