“Anyone can smile for a photo,
but who is still smiling after the selfie?” Ken Poirot
Apparently,
humans aren't the only species that take selfies. A wildlife camera in Boulder,
Colorado, snapped hundreds of images of a curious black bear last November. The
city’s Open Space and Mountain Parks Department set up nine cameras to learn
about local wildlife. One of the cameras captured 580 images, about 400 of them
were of the same bear.
A spokesperson for the Department stated, “These
pictures made us laugh, and we thought others would too.” It seems that the bear
discovered one of the cameras. Most animals don’t notice them, which are activated
by an animal stepping in front of them. They capture animals like deer, beavers, and less curious black bears going about their business. But this bear was
enthralled by the camera, posing for some 400 “selfies.”
That obsessed focus might work out for a bear,
but it’s probably not so great for human beings. Studies show that on average,
people spend 60% of conversations talking about themselves. That figure jumps
to 80% when communicating via social media platforms like Facebook or
TikTok.
God did not design us to be self-focused,
even in our own thoughts. The first thing that God declared was not good was
for human beings to be alone (Genesis 2:18). We were designed for relationships
and community.
If you’ve just emerged from a life isolated
in Antarctica, selfies are those pictures individuals take of themselves with
or without a duck face. For some odd reason, the “bathroom” selfie is one of the
more popular forms. And while selfie
pictures can be fun and an opportunity to share life and events, selfie
thinking can be disastrous. Why?
Selfie
thinking tends to make pain bigger. Ours is a sin-contaminated world
and sin is painful. Each one of us is affected by this pain. It can be physical
pain, the pain, and strain of relationships, or even mental and emotional pain.
The list is endless. Just watch the evening news and the majority of the
stories are about someone or some group’s pain.
As a selfie increases the size and focuses on
the individual, self-focus only increases pain. When we spend an inordinate
amount of time and energy thinking about ourselves, how we’re suffering, what’s
wrong in our life, the pain we’re experiencing, or things we feel we did wrong,
it amplifies our pain. It can trap us in a vicious cycle of overthinking and blowing
pain out of proportion. It’s a major contributor to depression and anxiety, drains
our time and spirit, and leads to unhealthy coping strategies.
Selfie thinking feeds our pride. Pride blinds us to
our own sin. It’s difficult to accept that it’s us and our problem because we’re
too proud to accept that we’ve sinned and have issues because we’re consumed
with ourselves. Someone said, “pride is the only disease that makes everyone
sick but the one who has it.” Pride feeds a sense of self-importance.
Imagine
visiting Niagara Falls with a friend. You’re both viewing one of the most
awe-inspiring natural scenes in America, but then you realize your friend is
only taking selfies. A hundred pictures later, and your friend is the picture in
every single shot. Who wants to see Niagara Falls when your friend is only
taking selfies without even the Falls in the background?
Social media has given everyone a platform to post their opinions. Usually,
the one posting assumes their opinion is a fact, after all, it’s their opinion.
Yet, a fact is a statement proven to be true or false by data or evidence. Most
opinions are based on emotions, personal history, and values—all of which can
be completely unsupported by real evidence. It’s like being blind and not knowing
it. Leonardo da Vinci wisely observed, “The greatest deception men suffer is
their own opinions.”
The Christian life is anti-selfie thinking. Jesus said, “If
anyone would come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his
cross daily and follow Me” (Luke 9:23). Denying your self is not
thinking harshly of your “self” or hating your “self.” It is just not thinking or
focusing on yourself.
It’s
this simple, if you’re living for self, you’re not following Jesus. “No one
can serve two masters” (Matthew 6:24). The word “deny” is the same word
used of Peter’s denials. It means to repudiate, renounce, or disown. Jesus
wasn’t talking about denying yourself little pleasures, like giving up dessert.
He’s talking about a complete way of life involving a renunciation of living for
your own selfish interests and embracing living for the sake of Christ. Denying
self and taking up one’s cross are foundational for a life of following of
Jesus. It means surrendering the right to control your life and giving that
right to the Lord Jesus.
To
American ears, self-denial sounds so negative, but remember that it was Jesus
who said this. In the short term, self-denial is difficult and not very
pleasant. But there is joy and peace in the present from it and eternal blessings
in the future when a Christian follows Jesus on the path of the cross. In Luke
9:24 Jesus said, “For whoever wishes to save his life shall lose it, but
whoever loses his life for My sake, he is the one who will save it.” When you
die to self and follow Jesus, He graciously gives you the ultimate in
fulfillment as the by-product—the joy of eternal life and of being affirmed by
Jesus before the Father when He comes in glory (9:26)!
In
the movie Chariots of Fire, Scottish runner, Eric Liddell competed in the
1924 Olympics in Paris but Liddell refused to run on a Sunday. After his gold
medal in the 400-meter race, he didn’t return to Scotland to have his picture
on a box of Wheaties or to live off his endorsements. Eric accepted God’s call
to serve as a missionary in China. During the Japanese invasion, Liddell was
arrested with other Chinese Christians and placed in a prison camp. Even in the
camp, Liddell led others to Christ and discipled them. Months before China was
liberated, Eric Liddell died as a prisoner in that camp. At the young age of forty-three, he met his Master face to face. His last words were, “it’s complete surrender,”
referring to how he’d given his life to serve the Lord. He’d run another kind
of race, for another kind of prize and he received another kind of medal, more
priceless than gold and that never perishes.
Jesus
doesn’t call most of us to be missionaries in a faraway land, yet He calls all
of us to deny ourselves and follow Him. Selfie thinking is miserable. True fulfillment
comes from following Christ. So please feel free to take fun pictures, even
selfies, yet make the Lord Jesus the primary picture in your heart and seek to
live for Him!
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